Learning and Activities
Check out the incredible lineup of folks leading activities and workshops in 2024!
This is the 2023 line-up.
Stay tuned for the 2024 line-up.
Marla Renee Stewart (she/her)
Marla Renee Stewart, MA (she/her) is a sexologist, author, and sexual strategist who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips, and is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She has studied human sexuality for more than 20 years and has given over 500 workshops all over the world. She also has been featured on a variety of media outlets, including Netflix’s Trigger Warning with Killer Mike and Love & HipHop Atlanta. She co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, which debuted in April 2020.
Classes:
Art of the Sensual Kiss
Do you want to learn some new ways of kissing your lovers? Or do you want to seduce your lover with a kiss that will keep them coming back again and again? Either way, this workshop is designed to help you kiss your lover better and connect with them on a deeper level. *No partner needed!*
The Charm of Choking
Are you thinking about choking during play? Are you great at choking, but would like to learn some nuance to it? Whether you are a novice or a professional, this class is going to help you become a choking expert. This workshop aims to educate you on different choking techniques, as well as combining them with dirty talk to make sure that you entice your target properly and seductively. This is your chance to master the choke and charm your person into sensual submission.
Marcia Baczynski (she/her)
Marcia is an internationally-recognized speaker, writer, coach and expert on sexual communication, relationships and women’s empowerment. Her primary mission is to help women and the people who love them to overcome shame and get in touch with what they truly want — romantically, sexually and relationally — even if it’s off the beaten path.
She is the co-author of the recently released book “Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators,” which hit #1 in its category upon release on Amazon.com.
Marcia brings wisdom, humor, and creativity to all aspects of her work, and offers a fresh perspective on love, sex and relationships. Each year, she works with a select group of private clients, helping them identify their needs, boundaries and deepest desires. Since 2003, she has helped tens of thousands of people through her private coaching, workshops and group programs. As co-founder of Cuddle Party, Marcia has helped tens of thousands of people to speak up for the kind of touch they want, say No unapologetically, and foster more connected, affectionate relationships.
Classes:
Get Your Flirt On
Flirting is an opportunity to be playful with other adults. But new people and situations can get you into your head, and it’s not always obvious whether flirting is wanted or welcomed. So how do you shake off your everyday constraints and get into your sexy space? Can you still flirt if you're feeling awkward? How do you know when someone is flirting with you? Can women flirt with men? And how can you let your interest be known in a fun, welcomed way?
In this lighthearted class, we'll talk about what flirting is — and isn’t! — and play a bunch of fun games to find your inner flirt, access your curiosity, initiate intimacy and embrace your playfulness.
Polyamory At The Play Party
You’re going to a play party… and the gang is all going to be there. While some folks are thrilled to have all their people in the same place, for others, it can be a source of confusion, consternation or outright contention.
Whether you’re unsure of the etiquette around seeing your partner’s partner at the play party, don’t know how to handle having multiple partners sharing a sexy space, or feel a confusing mix of feelings about it all, you’re not alone!
In this workshop, you’ll learn practical tips for navigating sexy events with more than one partner and/or metamour. We’ll review some of the common scenarios that can occur when multiple partners and metamours are at the same event, and explore strategies for more fun, relaxed and playful playtimes — together.
Reid Mihalko (he/him)
Reid Mihalko helps adults and college students create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health and satisfaction in and out of the bedroom using an inspiring mixture of humor, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information.
Using humor, insight and solid information, Reid appeals to audiences of all orientations, backgrounds, ages, and identities. He speaks pragmatically to nearly all areas of sexual self-expression, intimacy, dating and relating. Reid’s mission is to give men and women new tools to transform their love lives into fulfilling, satisfying, and sustainable expressions of self.
Classes
Hand Sex Grad School
Would you like to take your current craft & skills to Jedi levels? Want to ask those nagging questions and get advanced-level tips and tricks? Looking for an “excuse” to practice giving hand sex that leave your loved ones stammering, “h-h-How did you do THAT?!”
Let Reid Mihalko be your Head Dean (see what he did there?!) and give you your PhD in hand sex so YOU can give and/or receive mind-blowing handjobs, massages, analingus that leave YOU and your lovers feeling satisfied, confident, and glowing with appreciation! This class will include LIVE demonstrations as well as time for folks to practice on toys or with each other! Bring a Bonobo Buddy to practice with!
Angela Fisher (she/her)
Angi has been teaching trauma-informed movement since 2016. As a curvy, poly queer goddess, she feels she has a lot to offer in the realm of acceptance and self love in her classes. Her classes are about embracing all body types and finding the balance of ease and strength (whether it's physical, emotional or spiritual). She also combines her love of craniosacral into her classes, bringing in awareness of the nervous system and creating self-regulation.
Classes:
Sensual Yoga
Did you know that all yoga is good for sexy times? Yes, all yoga is good for sex! Let us embrace our inner beasts in a sacred container & on the mat! Come open up your hips, stretch & strengthen out those arms, and build your core! Let us prepare our bodies for a day (weekend) full of debauchery. We will dive into slow, rhythmic breathing, listen to sultry music, and find what feels delicious to move in this 90 minute class. If you have a regular practice, I invite you to try this blindfolded! All bodies and all levels welcomed. There will be options to move slow or fast during the course of the class to challenge and attune to all levels. If you have props (mat, blankets, blocks) please bring, some provided. If you have any questions please email me! bodyloveaf@gmail.com
BodyLove Yoga
Bringing the balance between what is easeful in our bodies and what needs strengthening. feeling into your own unique body love, whether that means relaxing or recharging for you in the moment. But! everyone is unique, come be in the uniqueness and flow of the group field.
Allison Moon (she/her)
Allison Moon is the author of five books including the critically acclaimed sexual education guide Girl Sex 101, Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex, and the erotic memoir Bad Dyke. Allison is a popular sex educator, leading workshops on sexual pleasure and technique, polyamory, LGBTQ+ issues, and more. She has been quoted in Cosmopolitan, New York magazine, and the Washington Post. Her other writing includes the story collection Bad Dyke: Salacious Stories from a Queer Life, articles for Bustle, and stories for the RISK! podcast, Bawdy Storytelling, and various anthologies.
Classes:
Buckle Up! Pegging Basics
Wanna add another tool to your box but don’t know where to start? Eager to explore #buttstuff but nervous about the execution?
Pegging, aka the act of using a strap-on to anally penetrate and pleasure a man, was once the realm of pro-dommes and porn. Now as more men and enbys are opening up to the idea, it's becoming an essential part of our sex lives. But unless you had the chutzpah to blaze your own trail or a special someone to show you the ropes, buckling up and pitching or catching can be intimidating.
Join veteran pegster, Allison Moon and her demo bottom Reid Mihalko, for this fun, informative, and sexy introduction to the world of harnesses, dildos, lubes and moves.
You'll learn:
• The ins and outs of strap-on play
• How to choose a dildo and a harness that’s right for you
• Fun positions for giving and receiving
• How to brooch the subject of strap-ons with your partner and integrate it into your regular sex life
• and, especially… What not to do!
• Plus a few advanced tips and tricks that will leave your lovers coming back for more…
William Winters (he/him)
William is the founder and co-organizer of Bonobo Network. William is a San Francisco Sex Information-trained sex educator, a Somatica Institute-trained sex and relationship coach, and a voracious student of sexuality and relating. He also serves as President of the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN)’s board of directors.
William’s perspectives on nonmonogamy have appeared in San Francisco Magazine, KQED's Forum, the San Francisco Chronicle, the New York Times, and podcasts including Multiamory and Normalizing Non-Monogamy. He has facilitated conversations about polyamory and sexuality in settings including university campuses, political conferences, living rooms, festivals, Burning Man, and beyond. He lives with his wife and their stupid cat in Oakland, CA.
Classes
The Bonobo Way
Nervous about coming to the retreat? Wondering how to make new connections without stepping all over people's boundaries? Do you want to squeeze as much creativity and connection out of the retreat as you can? William will provide crucial tips and practices to help you to slow down, take stock of what's possible, notice your own desires and boundaries, and bring them into respectful, fruitful, and most of all PLAYFUL conversation with those of others in this interactive playshop and conversation session.
Caity Reilly (she/her)
Serpentandrose.com
Caity Reilly is a writer, educator, somatic practitioner and bodywork. She is also a sex educator and intimacy coach who works with individuals and couples across the gender and sexuality spectrum. In her counseling work and educational spaces she invites clients and students to explore how their sex lives and relationships are mirrors for their inner experiences and how they can be gateways to deeper awakening and love.
Experiences:
Erotic Play+Ground
Explore connection and erotic expression in and through your nervous system, body and heart. Come discover the depth, intimacy and turn on that’s possible when we connect with others from a foundation of somatic attunement and embodied consent on all levels of our being. This slow, deep, juicy dive-in will give you a safe and sensual space to feel your “fuck yes!” and be clear in your boundaries, feel empowered to express your desires, and expand into the many flavors of your erotic range.
This container will serve as the Friday night opening activity!
Women’s Erotic Embodiment Circle
Come experience your primal, powerful, soft, courageous and joyous erotic expression.
This is a space to come back home to your power through your connection to the primal wisdom of your body. Come on a journey of nourishing your nervous system and body, so you can experience your deep erotic capacity to connect to Life, Pleasure and Love. We will practice cultivating a sense of inner safety and from this foundation you’ll have the space to explore a guided self-pleasure practice so that you can wildly and joyously open in your relationships, sexuality and experience the power that comes from the full sexual expression of yourself.
This workshop is for people who are female assigned at birth (AFAB) and those who identify as women. Women of all sexual orientations are welcome. This workshop is trauma-informed and we may discuss trauma and the nervous system and sexual expression as part of the event. Angel support will be available as needed.
An opportunity for self pleasure will be available. Bring a towel, and optionally, lube, or body oil if you have anything you’d like to bring for your optimal pleasure.
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Bonobos of Color Meetup
Are you of Black, Indigenous, Asian, Latino, SWANA, or other ancestry? This meet-up is for folks of color to connect with one another, find support, and build relationships within the Bonoboverse.
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Queerly Beloved Meetup
A gathering space for queer Bonobos to find and support one another.
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Cluster Meetup
A meetup for Bonobos under 40!
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Trans and Nonbinary Meetup
A space for trans and nonbinary Bonobos
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Bonobo Silverbacks
A meetup for Bonobos aged 50 and up!
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Women* of Bonobo
A meetup for anyone who ever thinks of themselves as a woman.
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Men* of Bonobo
A space for anyone who ever thinks of themselves as a man to find support and connection
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SoBernobos: A Meetup for Sober Bonobos
Come together with your fellow sober Bonobos to find camaraderie and support to stay on the path of profound self-care. You are not alone!